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7 Common Communication Problems in Relationships


Communication isn’t just what you say; it’s what the other person understands from what you have said. Sometimes problems can arise in the communication between both parties in a relationship.

One Person Doesn’t Listen to the Other

Sometimes when speaking to your partner you might feel as though you are talking to a brick wall, problems in relationships arise when you feel you are not being heard or understood. They might appear to tune out when you’re trying to have a conversation and you realise they haven’t been listening. This can be so infuriating but they may be thinking about something else that is going on and playing on their mind. Find out if this is the case and see if you can offer any help, rather than immediately becoming impatient with them. [How self awareness can improve your relationships]

Not Replying to Text Messages or Answering Calls

Regularly not getting a response from your other half when you’re trying to contact them can be a real point of contention as you may feel they are being dismissive or ignoring you. If you are busy, a quick text can be enough to show your partner that you aren’t trying to snub them or be discourteous. 

Not Saying Thankyou

Someone appearing to take their partner, and what they do for them, for granted through never really saying ‘thank you’ can make the partner feel undervalued and underappreciated which can breed resentment and ongoing problems in relationships. We always need to make sure we let people know that we are grateful and appreciate them.

A Long Distance Relationship Can Be Gruelling

If a couple is going through a long distance relationship, effort needs to be made by both people to communicate in whatever way they can. Technology helps us to stay in touch very conveniently through phone calls, texts, which can easily show that you’re thinking of them, while Skype and Facetime allows people to converse ‘face to face’.

Each person needs to know that their commitment to, and investment in, the relationship is worth it and not feel as though they’re drifting apart. A couple may be geographically separated but they shouldn’t allow themselves to become emotionally distant.

Not Talking About Your Sex Life

A couple might feel shy or a bit bashful, but talking about their sex life shouldn’t be a taboo subject. If it’s a part of your relationship, you need to talk about it, whether it’s your likes and dislikes or addressing a problem you might be experiencing in the bedroom. Sex is a form of communication in itself and so problems in relationships can frequently arise due to this area. [That loving feeling has gone - now what?]

Poor Physical Communication

Physical or non-verbal communication like holding hands or being given a hug is really important in a relationship as it stimulates the feel-good hormone oxytocin. This promotes bonding in a couple and makes them feel happy and secure. Eye contact is also an important aspect of physical communication between people as it shows they are on focusing on each other. Body language, such as the expression on our face, our tone of voice or our stance, is another form of physical communication which conveys how we’re feeling.

Not Being Clear About What You Want From the Relationship

A couple might want very different things from life and the relationship that they are in without realising that this is the case. If they don’t communicate about what they do want, major issues could arise, such as one partner wanting children and assuming that their significant other does too, when they don’t. If there are any concerns it’s best to sit down and have a serious talk about your hopes and expectations for the future.

If we bear all these things in mind we can try and limit problems in relationships and build strong and lasting ones. Good communication can help us to avoid confrontation and misunderstanding. If we hone our communication skills we can really get to understand our loved ones and help them to understand us too. For more communication and relationship advice join now and access over a hundred bite sized empowering videos and fun eBooks with reflective worksheets to help you develop a better relationship with yourself and others.


This article was contributed by Pink Moods.

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