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Methods for feeling calm and peaceful


Trying to find your inner peace and calm can sound like a vague concept. How do you go about achieving something so abstract? The truth is it is different for everyone. Where you find complete relaxation [A checklist for chilling out and enjoying life], others find disturbance.

Here are some methods to figuring out what calms you down. Hopefully they can help you find your inner peace.


Don’t try and completely escape whatever is disrupting your peace and calm – you ultimately need to confront it – but picturing a memory or scene that reminds you of peace can help stop your agitation. It’s good to practise visualisation as a way of achieving, as it mentally prepares you for many situations by grounding your calm feelings to something you can see, understand and know exists. If it helps, plan a visit to the place you visualise in order to add some realism to you visions.

Turning piles into lists

Get all the thoughts in your head and organise them in some way. You can organise them from good, to neutral, to bad, or if they’re things to do make a priority list and divide them into sections like “work” and “home”. Making thoughts physical and organising them gives the control back to you, which helps you achieve peace. Visit Organise Me to get your day and life in order.

Practise pausing and breathing

When we struggle to find peace and calm, our emotions run through the red lights. We lose concentration and become hurried, thinking we need to keep occupied and keep doing something. Remember to stop, to break, to rest. Pausing and taking deep breaths can stop your hectic mind, especially any physical symptoms such as a fast heart rate or shaking. When you feel yourself coming close to crashing, don’t force yourself through, but walk away to somewhere else and stop for 10 minutes.

Take away the aggression

It’s hard to be calm and peaceful if you allow aggression into your thoughts [Popular Anger Management Techniques]. Tasks to do become threats, loaded with emotional blackmail. Being upset about something turns into self-blame. If you can recognise a pattern of negative words in your thoughts, stop using that language. Reprimand the inner child in you and treat harsh words like swear words that are offensive to you.

Not allowing negativity in your mind [The reasons that you should avoid these negative words] gives more space to words and thoughts which are less punishing. If you find it hard to do this yourself, talking with a life coach will help, as they can identify the patterns of language you use to describe yourself and help find replacements.

Create silence

If silence isn’t around you, make the silence yourself. Go to a place where you are guaranteed no disturbances. They don’t have to be places that are completely isolated. For some, a cafe works fine so they can relax alone with quiet background music. Others might prefer a swimming pool, where all you can do is swim and rhythmically do lap after lap. Others can be more traditional and prefer a yoga class.

It has to be an environment where people go to relax and it has to be somewhere you can routinely go to. Dedicating yourself to going to silent spaces where you can switch off regularly will keep you calm and peaceful, because you know you’re guaranteed peace and calm as much as you want or need it.

It can feel like an uphill battle trying to feel calm and peaceful when so much is happening in your life, but you have to fight for it. Just being calm and peaceful doesn’t work, which you probably already understand. Channel your frustration into these methods and work for your calm and peace of mind. You can get there.


This article was contributed by Pink Moods.

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