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Do you struggle with trust?


Trust is a complicated but vital quality in relationships. The only way a relationship can function healthily – be it romantic, platonic or strictly professional – is for both parties to trust each other. Bringing yourself to trust someone in itself can be a task. Since we are naturally more defensive in behaviour, we ironically damage more relationships by not trusting others compared to when we do. The fear of having your trust broken in itself can lead to relationships breaking down. So, how do you reach the happy balance of trust between you and another? Here are some reasons why it’s important to overcome your struggle with trust.

What is trust?

Trust is an ability to relinquish control to somebody else. When you trust someone, you are allowing them to have free will over certain situations under the assumption that they will be faithful and in line with your wishes. It’s important to be able to do this when you come across instances where your own strengths aren’t enough. It also works the other way around – convincing somebody that you can decide and act accordingly in a way that satisfies them. Trust is what you need when you recognise your own abilities are limited and can’t produce an effect in the way you’d like, therefore it’s important to develop your ability to trust others.

Trusting yourself and others

Trusting yourself is crucial when learning how to trust others. [8 signs that you have trust in  a relationship] Lack of trust is often not for a good reason, but often stems from a lack of self-trust, in terms of making the best decisions and choices for your life. When you project these doubts and fears onto others, you don’t trust them, whether it is to not cheat on you or run an important errand. You have to learn to accept what you cannot change and deal with what you can. Other people have power and control too. A lack of trust causes healthy, productive relationships to break down, due to your anxiety rather than a real issue.

How to change and become trusting

The first step is to take an attitude adjustment towards trust. You have to accept that you will make wrong decisions on who to trust, and these experiences will lead you to the right people to trust. Next, change your perspective on what trust is. Trust is a journey, full of peaks and troughs. Not every situation that requires trust is like a ticking bomb, requiring a split-second decision every time it needs diffusing. In order to become trusting, you have to work your way towards it over time.

The process of learning to trust is a long-term investment. You can’t let certain set-backs – whether it’s a break-up, a late deadline or a spilled secret – get in your way. When you face these types of situations that test your ability to trust, remember that they are helping you find the right ways to trust. You don’t have to struggle with trust forever – keep an open mind and open heart. To improve on your own confidence levels and thus build trust in others join our empowering club with tools to support you daily. 


This article was contributed by Pink Moods.