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Failed? 7 ways to bounce back from failure


We often beat ourselves up when we don’t succeed but don’t be too hard on yourself. Here are seven ways of moving forwards from your setback:

1) Get Back in the Saddle

Don’t allow yourself to be spooked, the longer you leave going back to something you have found difficult, the more daunting trying again will become. Allowing a ‘failure’ to play on your mind for too long can make you increasingly reluctant to try again and give yourself chance to overcome the problem.

2) Use it as a Learning Curve

Analyse why you’ve failed, what you could have done differently and how you could do it better next time. We often learn a lot through our mistakes and failures. A motivational quotation from Albert Einstein puts things into perspective:
“Failure is success in progress”
If one of the world’s geniuses had to contend with failure, it isn’t surprising that we lesser mortals have to face it too. [Why does failure come before success?]

3) Don’t Take it to Heart

Failing and finding out that things are not working how you might have wanted them to, is just part of life. Realise you can’t be perfect at everything. Sometimes it’s best to have a ‘C’est la vie’ attitude rather than getting bogged down in the negative. [21 things you need to do to avoid negative thoughts]

4) ‘Keep Calm and Carry On’

It may sound like tough love but sometimes we need to get back up, dust ourselves off and get on with it. As Winston Churchill once said:
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”

5) Seek the Right Support Network

Get some support to help you deal with your experience. No man is an island, we all need a bit of consoling and empathy from time to time. If you need to pursue what you were trying to do and try again, seek out some practical support from someone who can help you meet the challenge, such as one of our life coaches who can offer actionable steps forward or find encouragement in our community. If however, you’re feeling particularly stressed and downtrodden, see your GP who will be able to advise.

6) Recognise Your Strengths

Maybe what you’ve failed at isn’t something that you’re that good at- we all have our limits. Consider a change of direction, recognise and play to your other strengths and give yourself credit for them. [7 Ways to discover your strengths] Take notice of what people compliment or praise you for, and believe them. If you have lost your direction and want to rediscover your purpose, strengths and direction then visit our Self Discovery eBooks and work through the steps to find out why you have so much more to offer than you may imagine. Far too many of us are ready to focus on our mistakes or on criticisms that come our way, instead of taking on board morale-boosting advice or remarks.

7) Don’t Make a Mountain Out of a Molehill

It’s probably not as bad as you think. Don’t take failure personally, you’ve failed at a task, not at being a person. It isn’t the end of the world. If you want some motivational and empowering expert advice, then visit our Video Moods section where you can search by many emotions or situations.

Research published by the international journal Anxiety, Stress & Coping has found that the best overall way to bounce back from failure is to use the coping method of ‘positive reframing’ when dealing with something you perceive yourself to have failed at. This means looking on the bright side and using the setback as a constructing learning experience, which will give you a higher level of satisfaction and allow you to move forward focusing on what you have achieved. So don’t list how you have failed, instead write down everything that you have learned and get ready to be fully armed for the next winning chapter of your life!


This article was contributed by Pink Moods.