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How to build confidence in speaking


The power of the voice can be realised by anyone. Your voice is a tool that can adapt to and take control of so many situations in life. Unfortunately, not everyone is encouraged to use it and develop it in the same way. If you are one of these people – scared to speak out and lacking in confidence in your thoughts, opinions and stances – there’s always hope. Here, we’ll go through how to build confidence in speaking, so you can make your voice travel and be heard in places you never thought possible.

Why are we scared to speak to others?

The fear of public speaking – otherwise known as glossophobia – is one of the most common phobias in the world. This stems from the notion that speaking publicly leaves you vulnerable. Speaking is one of the fundamental methods of self-expression, so the idea of opening yourself up for judgement and response can really strike fear into the hearts of others. [How to grow your self-confidence]  

Why communicating is more important than speaking

Those with a speaking phobia will often agree that they feel pressured to keep people engaged, interested and agreeable. They worry about their audience not connecting with what they have to say on a superficial level and believe there is a need to express every sentence perfectly. This, however, is not the focus of good public speakers.

The key to building confidence in speaking

Confident public speakers aren’t always eloquent, and in fact make mistakes often. They stutter, forget words and stumble over sentences. What they have is self-efficacy. When you fully believe in the content of what you have to say, you will connect with others regardless. Showing passion for and engagement with what you want to discuss and communicate, rather than how, is the key to being a good public speaker. In essence, those who fear speaking, fear seeming out of depth or lack confidence in their convictions. If you work on your self-efficacy, you should find that your communication skills improve.  [How your values shape your confidence]

How to build confidence

Don’t go in at the deep end.

The most winningly charismatic speakers started small; one-on-one, to little groups of their target audience, before stretching their voice to thousands at a time. Don’t challenge yourself with a ‘tough crowd’ early on, but build your confidence with others who share your thoughts.


The voice is produced by a muscle and thus conforms to the notion of muscle memory. The more you train your voice to express and deliver in a certain way and in certain situations, the more naturally you will do it, even when speaking about something new. You can even do this in a mirror – it’s a common trick of top actors and politicians. For more advice on tips on how to practice and overcome your fears of public speaking join our empowering club now and watch our video series on personal development.

Use your nerves.

The number one tip of top speech experts for nervous speakers is to not make any efforts to rid of nerves. While deep breaths and sips of water are harmless, focussing too much on getting rid of your nerves will only make them worse. The best speakers will channel the energy and use it to drive their points home. The more they can feed on the nerves, the better.

Building confidence in speaking takes time, and the the starting point is your self-confidence. [31 ways to increase your self -worth] There is a direct correlation between self-efficacy and speaking ability. The more you believe in yourself and what you can do, the more confident you are in expressing that. Work on your self-confidence and watch you confidence in speaking grow. For personalised advice on how to build your confidence for public speaking book an appointment with one of our life coaches.


This article was contributed by Pink Moods.

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