This article was contributed by Pink Moods.
How are you feeling?
It is a common problem that we don’t know if we are good enough, our research has shown that the majority of you are stressed when you don’t feel you are where you feel you should be in life. So how can you assess if you really are a winner?
We are all products of certain privileges and hardships, with some beginnings being close to perfection while others couldn’t have gone much worse. Whatever the background, there is something to find in yours to motivate you. The more privileged might have a sense of pride and a desire to keep the life they had, the less fortunate might be determined to get as far away from their current life as possible. Anybody can locate their drive. You can’t choose the cards dealt to you, but the best reaction is to not add any negativity. You might have every right to be upset with the things that happened to you, but dwelling on them distracts you from the changes that are in your control. Drive is a choice. [Where does your drive to work come from?]
Planning, preparation and expectation come before winning. Luck applies to the lottery, but the lottery doesn’t apply to life. People who succeed work hard and there is no replacement. Furthermore people who succeed work hard on something specific. You never accidentally succeed in a certain area, you purposefully do. Visualising your goals helps you make better decisions and cut out unnecessary efforts and actions. Splitting your goals up further into bite-size chunks helps further to maintain focus.[The power of visualisation in making your dreams come true]
An all-consuming love for what you do is vital to being a winner. We often see child prodigies either move on to be world-class in their field or disappear completely. The winners had the passion for it as well as the work ethic and ability, the others fell out of love with it or realised they never loved it in the first place. Anybody can push themselves through boundaries in something they don’t like, but eventually they will give up. They will retire feeling they’ve done as much as they can without completely hating it, but those with passion feel they will always have improvements to make. [10 ways to find your passions in life]
When you have challenging competition, this is when your skills are put to the test. The pressure of a rivalry can provide great motivation, but winners will stay resilient even when the rivalry doesn’t benefit them at the time. They know losses are only temporary and can contribute to mental toughness, instead of letting them take away from their self-esteem. [31 ways to increase your self worth] It’s about losing battles but knowing you haven’t lost the war. [Resilience: Building resources for emotional wellbeing and mental strength ]
The point of winning is knowing you play a part in something which requires the collaboration of others. There are always interferences or twists of fate waiting to meddle. No one ever wins alone, just as no one ever loses alone. However, we like to take all the credit when we’re winning. True winners never blame others for their failures, but think about what they could have done better, even if the situation was out of their control. Responsibility is down to ‘response-ability’. Winners rarely defend or attempt to justify themselves because they don’t feel they need to. They fail forward. [7 ways to bounce back from failure] Once in the habit of winning, you always look for ways to keep winning, and seeing what improvements or changes to make is how you find those ways.
‘A winner never quits’ is a fallacy. We simply cannot win all the time, but you never know if you need to quit until you try in the first place. The phrase should be ‘a winner never tries’. The smart move is to know when something is not going to work and having the courage to walk away. You might call it bravery or loyalty to stick with a failure, but it leads to nothing helpful or useful for anyone involved. Move on to something which you will be better suited to. As with taking responsibility, it’s about failing forward. [Why does failure come before success?]
Notice how the main qualities behind being a winner have nothing to do with your number of successes. It’s about attitude and realism. The winning mentality is something to aspire to, even if your achievements don’t reflect it. Eventually, you can turn it around.
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This article was contributed by Pink Moods.