This article was contributed by Pink Moods.
How are you feeling?
Being valued at the workplace is more important than you might initially think. Multiple studies
have shown there is a spill-over effect from being valued by our bosses. A professional relationship
you lack confidence in can have an impact on our self-esteem and our intimate relationships, as we
start to see our professional failures as reflective of our worth and contributions outside of our
profession. Here are some questions to ask yourself to test if your boss values you.
A boss who truly cares about the work you do wants you to do it to the best of your ability, even if
you occupy a small role. They will want you to improve and stay consistent. Therefore, feedback is
not just desirable but crucial. If they don’t give you feedback, or if it is unhelpful or vague, they
don’t place much value with your position, nor, as a result, you.
The modern working place means we are hyper-connected. From our smartphones, to Skype, to
social media, there is always a way to be kept up to date with developments, changes and last-
minute announcements. It’s not acceptable for your boss to contact you all the time, but if this basic
level of communication is not relevant to you, you’re not considered valuable enough to know about
the welfare of the company and its future. Nobody wants to be the last to know about what is
happening at work, at the very least because we spend so much of our time dedicated to work.
Are your days off every truly days off? Are you taking on an unfair amount of overtime compared
to your employees? Are your requests for holiday and compassionate leave accepted reluctantly?
You are valued as a worker perhaps, but your value as a person is lacking. You need to establish a
solid boundary between your personal life and your work life, as you’re entitled to it.
Bosses aren’t infallible. Their job is to make executive decisions, but the most effective decisions
are made when all perspectives are taken into account. If you’re making suggestions and show
interest in moving the workplace forward, you’re doing the right thing. You don’t always have to be
agreed with, but you need to be taken into account. If you feel your ideas are merely dismissed, they
haven’t been valued properly.
A good boss wants to help you become a version of your best self, not a second-rate version of
them. Moulding people into the image of yourself creates yes-men and lackeys, it doesn’t create
individual, effective workers. If your individuality – your specific talents and interests – have
limited expression in your work or are being slowly stripped away from your work’s identity, you’re
not being valued.
Good workplaces are well structured and diverse. The organisation is valued if everyone works
together to come to decisions and move forward. If you’re putting in the effort to maintain this
structure and your boss seems to change their mind about everything all the time, they aren’t
respecting the structure. Indecisive bosses are assuming their final say is what moves the workplace
forward, rather than what everybody else says. They have an authoritative voice, not a totalitarian
A classic sign of a boss who doesn’t value employees is when they take too much credit for their
work. They have a right to brag about their abilities to recruit, manage and produce results, but they
can’t brag about your contributions and skills specifically. If you’re boss is scant with praise and
recognition – do you even have Employees of The Month – then they may not value you as much as
Good bosses pick their battles to fight and make intelligent delegations to ensure employees
understand and accept their responsibilities at the workplace. Not only does this make sure the work
rate remains at a high standard, but the employee also feels they’re making valuable contributions.
This also paves the way for eventual career progression. If you never get opportunities to exercise
your initiative, no matter how small the issue, your boss might prefer to micromanage you and
make sure you perform the jobs they want. There’s a difference between being employed and being
deployed. Think about whether you’ve stalled in your career, or if you haven’t branched out or
moved up in a long time. If others are given a chance for growth as workers and you don’t get this
freedom, you might be undervalued.
There are steps you can take to improve your relationship with your boss, and therefore increase
their value of you. The first step is to believe that you are valuable. Go over your professional
history and highlight your achievements and talents. The next is to have a fair, open conversation
with your boss to come up with a resolution. Sometimes the problem seems bigger to us than it
actually is, and other times we may need to move on to another workplace that appreciates us more.
Either way, you deserve to be valued at work, and you can ensure that you are. Don’t lose hope.
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This article was contributed by Pink Moods.