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The power of our subconscious on our emotions


What is our subconscious?

The subconscious mind is a storehouse of everything seen and heard, information that the mind collects and cannot otherwise consciously process and understand. The information can then be later retrieved by the conscious mind for the individual`s conscious awareness.

The subconscious mind is the part of your mind responsible for all of your involuntary actions, your breathing rate and heart beats are controlled by your subconscious mind. Another example would be in driving a car, we can be in autopilot driving sometimes arriving at our destination and not remembering the journey. Who was driving then? Our subconscious was. Once any new skill has been learnt, with repetition a new neural pathway is developed in the brain and stored by the subconscious mind as a program to make it second nature to us.

The conscious mind is the part of your mind that is responsible for logic and reasoning. The conscious mind also controls all the actions that you do while being conscious. So whenever you are aware of what you are doing it is by your conscious mind not your subconscious because you were 100% conscious while doing it.

The power of the subconscious mind.

The subconscious mind learns by repetition and not by logic. The subconscious mind stores everything and has no filter it`s where our beliefs are held. In order to change any negative beliefs you need to understand how the subconscious mind works and how can it be programmed.

First comes the thought then a belief or memory gets triggered which results in a negative feeling. For example when you experience an emotion like anxiety before giving a speech you won`t be able to logically convince yourself that there is no need to be afraid. You may become triggered physiologically, maybe by a fast heart beat without being able to stop this from happening. Your emotions are also controlled by your subconscious mind. That’s why you sometimes might feel afraid, anxious or depressed without wanting to experience such a feeling this is why using Affirmation don`t always work if it contradicts a deeply entrenched negative belief we hold. Our internal guidance system ie our emotions are always speaking to us, an example would be a belief of `I`m not worthy` with the feeling experienced giving us the opportunity to change those beliefs that are outdated and untrue.

Your subconscious mind is always awake, unlike your conscious mind and that’s why dreams can express our suppressed emotions. While sleeping the conscious mind becomes dormant while the subconscious remains active. One way to change a limiting belief is to convince the conscious mind logically to accept it so that it can pass to the subconscious mind. By re programming the subconscious mind new healthy and accurate beliefs can be formed resulting in a happier life with healthy relationships. This can be done with the support of a good Counsellor/Psychotherapist and/or through hypnosis.


In what way does it impact on our emotions?

The personality`s unconscious defense mechanisms or ego`s main function is to protect your well-being and to help you overcome emotional shocks. Your subconscious mind is responsible for many of the emotions that you experience. If someone annoyed you the installed program of anger is going to be launched and the result will be a behavior that you may regret later. The feelings of anxiety you might experience before a presentation and the inferiority feelings that make you feel less worthy than others in addition to other emotions stem from the subconscious mind.
Since emotions are triggered by the unconscious mind it`s impossible to stop them but knowing that the conscious mind processes thoughts, which are the primary trigger for emotions, you can easily control your thoughts and in turn your emotions by examining false beliefs stored in the subconscious mind.

When dealing with the emotions that the subconscious mind generates, the best way is to dig deeply until you find the root cause of the problem. The subconscious mind doesn’t understand logic, if for example you suffer from feelings of inferiority then trying to convince yourself logically that you shouldn’t be feeling inferior doesn`t tend to work, but by examining your childhood beliefs with a good therapist who can help you find out the root cause behind such feelings.

Once you do dealing with any negative belief will become a simple task. Emotions are no more than messages sent by your subconscious mind in order to notify you about something. By learning how to make the best use of the cooperation between your conscious and subconscious mind your life skills will improve and you will have much more control over your emotions.

For most women creating and maintaining a sense of harmony and understanding around their emotional life could be the single most important factor in achieving a balanced happy fulfilling life. Coming to a place of emotional maturity where responsibility is taken for what happens to you in your life and your relationships, whilst learning from your experiences and not judging them is maybe the toughest task of all.
Once we commit to truly taking responsibility for our emotional lives, recognising knee jerk reactions and how we perceive things. By not blaming other people, we can start to feel empowered and find our own sense of balance and wellbeing. By being fully aware in each moment, acknowledging any knee jerk reactions triggered from our subconscious mind then frees us from reliving negative situations from the past and letting that affect our thinking and behaviour in the present.

So if we can learn to observe our emotions internally by `feeling` into what our emotions are really trying to tell us, then we can choose how we want to respond in any given situation. Without reactivity you`ll begin to have more control over the inevitable triggers that set our emotional dialogue in action and see how their real purpose was to get our attention in facing our own deeply held outdated beliefs.


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Estelle Dooley

Estelle Dooley is a Psychotherapist, Coach and Energy Healing Practitioner with many years experience in Mental Health, Abuse and Holistic therapy she is dedicated to the Empowerment of her client`s and has a private practice based in Liverpool. MA in Counselling & Psychotherapy Liverpool John Moore`s University Accred Life Coaching Cert - The Coaching Academy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Cert - CPCAB Post Grad Diploma in Person Centred Counselling - Liverpool John Moore`s University Solution Focused Certificate - CPTI Counselling Practitioners Training Institute Transactional Analysis (TA101) Cert - ITA Institute of Transactional Analysis Person Centred Counselling Cert - LCC BACP Member of the Accredited Register set up by the Department of Health for good practice. Member of British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy MBACP.


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