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How are you feeling?

What is the key to lasting happiness?


Chocolate? Love? Wine? In a sense, yes. We all think we know what will make us happy, but true happiness involves satisfying areas of our lives we are not even conscious of. Abraham Maslow’s ‘Hierarchy of Needs’ suggests it goes far deeper than conscious actions to ensure true lasting happiness.

Build your foundation

It is suggested that our basic foundation to happiness is satisfying our physiological needs for our survival. If we don’t have food or water how are we expected to have a happiness that extends beyond that? Hopefully for most of us this is an area we can rely on most of the time being satisfied – unless you’ve postponed that food shop a little too long. This is next followed by the block of ‘safety’ of being in a comfortable environment. Sometimes we take for granted that we can usually count on our basic needs always being satisfied, however for some people this is not the case.

When superficial happiness tends to distract us, remembering that we are still lucky enough to have a safe foundation can give us some perspective of how vital these requirements are.

Missing a building block?

If all those basic needs are satisfied, it leads to the next block of ‘love and belonging’. Having friends, relationships and family in our lives that satisfy our need to be part of a community helping us to feel content. Are you in a happy relationship, have a close family and a great girl network? Then you should feel quite happy right?. However, as we discovered through our own research, in times of stress, 2 out of 3 of us ladies in the UK feel that we cannot turn to our family and close friends for support, and would therefore benefit from objective advice in these moments*. Visit our community for some new insight and inspiration to help you through those occasional moments of stress to help raise those important levels of happiness.

The ‘esteem’ level is the penultimate one before your ability to ‘self-actualize’ and refers to a sense of achievement and acceptance by others, a confidence in ourselves. [A guide to feeling more accomplished every day] This can sometimes be a weaker area for some, which comes to affect your happiness as a whole – as you will never be able to focus on fulfilling your personal goals unless you have belief in yourself to do so. So, whether you develop a hobby or a skill, or merely spend time with people who show you respect this can help you on your way to satisfying this need. Having self-confidence is the key to being brave and achieving the goals you’ve always dreamt of. If you need support with your confidence levels then visit our Video Moods sessions on confidence building activities from the experts or download a daily confidence planner for some actionable tips to break bad habits or read more about where your confidence can improve in our reflective Self Discovery eBooks.

Above and beyond

You’ve almost reached the top, when everything else is satisfied this now allows you to ‘become the most that you can be’. You could have work goals, family goals or relationship goals. Now you are able to focus beyond your own development, but help others also. If you feel like you’ve developed this far then why not provide support for others hoping to achieve the same? Giving support and offering advice could be just another way to gain self-fulfilment. Visit our goal setting network and set a new goal or use your experience to help others with theirs.

The hierarchy of needs is a loose guide to helping to achieve long lasting, wholesome happiness. Chasing after goals at work or in our personal life when other, more primary aspects of your life are left un-nurtured will never allow you to achieve your full potential. In other words, looking after yourself is the priority and everything else can come later…


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This article was contributed by Pink Moods.

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